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Izzah Part 11: My soft-hearted Princess
December 19, 2006 | |
Since I’m staying with my MIL and she has a maid. So my
doter x de la kene anta kat org or nursery. She’s growing up dalam environment yg
x ramai org, x de org menjerit2, x de org gaduh2 dan x de orang yg ganas2. Then
semua cousin dia belah my hubby pun jenis yg main elok2. Tak de la jenis
bergusti among them. Pada yg kenal my husband, mmg all his family style cam
dia, soft spoken. On my side plak.. my nephews ada yg lasak n ada gak yg jenis
baik2 nih. Tapi kalau yg nieces
semua baik la sbb girls kan.
So my story today is about how I’m worried that Izzah kene
buli when she’s masuk skolah nanti. Dia banyak mcm abah dia, but she talk like
me. When other kids shout at her, nangis la dia. Sebab kat umah semua org ckp
lembut2.
When somebody nak guna or main mainan dia, mcm budak2 lain
jugak.. kekadang dia bg but kekadang dia kedekut. Tapi when I said
kakak/abang/adik pinjam sekejap jer, then she can accept and let the kid main
mainan dia. But when I goes to dia nak main mainan orang, then the kids x
bagi.. I selalu pujuk dia, ckp kakak/abg/adik x bagi, nnt dia marah/nangis..
dalam keadaan terpaksa dia akan terima. Kadang2 I can divert what she want kpd
bende lain.. but sometime when she wanted so much to try mainan budak tuh but
then x dapat, she just cry in my lap. Sedih bila tgk muka dia and I know how it
feels, tp nak buat cemana kan.. I
tak nak biasakan dia dapat everything that she want, melainkan mmg mak budak
tuh ker yg pujuk anak dia utk bg pinjam.
Last Saturday we brought her to Lake Garden. She love to play swing very
much, slalu dah puas main buaian baru dia akan main bende lain. On that day
rasanya ada sekumpulan budak dari rumah kebajikan or rumah anak2 yatim kot. Sbb
I notice that this little boy age around 1 years, playing around by himself.
Sedih tgk budak nih main sorg2, tergolek sesorg, try panjat slide sesorg which
then I help him try the slide. Cute, muka Chinese look n leg dia cam pekong
sket. And a few other kid, taking care
or each other. Tapi ada sorg lelaki yg monitor dorg.
Then sorg girl nih main kat tempat izzah sdg main. So izzah
wanted to hold the stering mainan tuh jugak. I said x pe let kakak main dulu,
Izzah turun kat gelongsor. Then masa Izzah nak turun kat gelongsor tuh budak
tuh gi tolak kepala Izzah. Geramnya masa tuh. I just said to that girl elok2, ‘kenapa
buat macam tuh, tak baik’. Izzah plak memula I thought dia x perasan, then dia
trus gi main kat tempat lain. And when I usap2 kepala dia, dia cakap ‘chakit’..
mmm kesian my doter.
I don’t blame that girl, maybe sbb dia x de parent to teach
her how to behave or how to treat others respectably. But I’m worried about Izzah.
She is too kind, baik hati, x pandai gaduh2, if budak lain marah dia, dia x
pandai nak marah balik. Dia maybe nampak cam lasak kat rumah, but she is fragile
girl. On the brighter side bagus la I have a good daughter cam Izzah, but tak
nak la sampai org boleh easily buli dia. and I’m actually geram kat parent yg
let anak2 dia buli budak lain. The kids maybe x tahu, so it is parents
responsibility to teach them and guide them and monitor them. Some time I felt
unfair sbb I jaga my doter and x bg dia gaduh2 with anak org lain, ajar supaya
share facilities yang ada but mak bapak budak lain plak let anak dia buat
sesuka hati to anak org.
I wish the best for Izzah. Semoga bila sampai masanya dia
masuk kiddy nanti, I can let her go without rasa susah hati. I don’t want her
to be violent to others, I just want her know how to handle violent kid.
Comments
2 Comments so far
lentur buluh dari rebungnya..
let her play n mix around so she’ll learn from the xp.dun worry, teach her how to be brave n avoid playing with those notty kids.:)
masa kite kecik2 kat tadika dlu, tak pandai nak marah bile budak2 suke pijak kasut kite. pastu abah kite ajar kalau ada org pijak kasut, tenung die. besarkn mata.. supaya budak tu tak berani nak sengaja pijak2 kasut kite…hihih… thats how i grew up become a brave person..:p
nice tips aini.. saya pun rasa saya kene ajar izzah how to handle budak2 nakal nih and maybe i’m just too worried..
btw.. best nyer abah awak. and awk pun ada nice moment wif ur abah to remember and I belive there are lots more